The Rolling Stone magazine did a great article detailing known assault allegations against Don John, Predator-in-Chief. I’m pretty ticked off about one aspect in particular, buying silence.
In particular, when a predator is done with his victim, he doesn’t want them to tell anyone else. If the predator is rich enough, he hires a bunch of goons (lawyers) to give the victim money and a contract telling them to be silent.
The victim has sold their story, the truth, and their soul, along with their body. They are no longer a victim, they are party to a contract.
The real victim becomes the truth. And because the predator is still at large, more young women will come to harm. The first victim has decided her pocketbook was more important than those other women’s dignity.
It makes sense that the predator himself wants his victims to remain silent, because it enables him to prey on others more easily. If he’s rich enough, he can afford it.
But why doesn’t another rich person come along and buy out that contract? For only a few extra dollars, the first victim can be just as rich, and the world would have her story.
Quid pro quo. I’ll do you a favor if you do one for me.
If one rich person were to start doing this, than other rich people would do it to him. As long as it’s only poor people who sell their voices, then the world of the rich is undisturbed. But if one rich person were to come along and buy the truth, then someone richer would come along and buy stories embarrassing to him.
I’m confident that is how his lawyers would argue it with him. I’m confident in this because to destroy the system of confidentiality agreements would also cut into the amount of money that lawyers make. Anything that hurts their income is also one of the things they avoid.
Perhaps someone can crowd-fund social truth. Perhaps.
Until we begin to truly value truth and values in society, we will continue to live in fear. Women will be prey, alpha males will be predators. We deify the rich and famous, ostracize the old and poor.
It’s better if we don’t talk about it.
After all, your silence is worth gold.