We have a morning ritual, I make breakfast. It’s simple, and I have a system.
Every now and then I reach into the fridge to grab the jar of home-made jam for our home-made bread. Yum yum.
If it’s where it’s supposed to be, I can get it with my eyes closed.
If it’s not there, I have to start looking. And looking. And looking.
While I’m searching the shelves, bottom to top, front to back, I think about our brains. I know, it sounds gross, but it keeps my mind off the lost jam!
After all, this is her fridge. She uses it way more than I do. She may have had a good reason for moving the jam. She may not have even thought about it.
But there’s also that man woman thing. After all, we know women are more likely to use landmarks for navigation, give directions using relative movements, and are much better suited to shopping and gathering versus targeting and hunting.
Of course these are gross generalities, but I’m still looking for that jam!
This isn’t saying that the way a woman organizes, or looks for things is bad, or good. It’s just different.
- The good thing about the way a woman stores things is that it forces local familiarization. She notices when that old store has changed its awning. I didn’t even know it had an awning.
- It’s harder to become disoriented, especially when you’re juggling so many other tasks. Kids screaming, you dropped the purse, and a friend just yelled at you from behind? No problem, you still know you’re by the library heading to the drugstore.
- It’s easier to give directions to another person, like a friend who is also shopping. A woman can say, “Go to the shoe store that’s next to the record store.” The man would have to say, “Go 2 blocks North then turn East one block, North one more block and West 4 blocks and it’ll be the 5th store on the South side of the street.”
All said and done, the woman’s way requires more brain power. That’s probably why men don’t like it.
It’s also probably why I can’t find the jam. I’ll ask my wife when she comes down. For now, I’ll start making toast.