I met this guy at a party, and he was boasting that soon after getting married he’d gotten a vasectomy. His newlywed wife was all for it. And they’d been married happily for many years.
They are smart, well-traveled, fairly funny, and have a good life. Why not want to share that with some little copies of themselves?
Here’s a few easy reasons.
- Perhaps one or both had a rough childhood, and don’t want to pass on those bad memories.
- Perhaps they are surrounded by enough children owned by relatives, they feel safe not contributing to the family.
- They could be so selfish that the idea of sharing any of their fun times with anyone else is abhorrent. Why choose to share it with someone you are legally liable for?
I’m sure you can think of a few more, but the other day I realized there was a big one that I hadn’t considered. It is very similar to thoughts I shared regarding suicide some time ago.
It goes like this:
This couple isn’t happy with the world as they know it. There’s pollution, overcrowding, uncertainty, and increasing expenses.
They Choose No Children because they are afraid of the future. The joy they might feel in raising a child is offset by the pain of exposing them to a frightening world.
In a way, we are seeing a form of species suicide. For if the members don’t have enough children, the species will shrink. Shrink enough and it dies.
So the next time you meet a couple that is childless, try to cheer them up. The future can’t be that bad.