The wonders of technology FINALLY include an upswelling of women speaking out against sexual predators. From movie moguls to MPs these disgusting men are being ferreted out, and it’s about time.
My personal thanks goes out to those women of #MeToo who are taking that very courageous step of standing up for yourself, for others, and for all of our daughters,
THANK YOU thank you thank you.
That said, even these disgusting events can teach us something.
First, as dispassionate observers of behavior, let’s appreciate how far most men have come.
We used to live in caves. Like today, many wives were met at clubs. Literal clubs. Lack of hygiene and clothes required that most men use a club to knock their wives unconscious. In all fairness, a few husbands may have been acquired this way.
Through the eons men have learned some manners, from those very same wives no doubt. The Etruscan society may have been the first to practice sexual parity, but the Romans stamped that out. None the less, concepts like the sanctity of marriage and monogamy became official, if not popular.
Not to say that there wasn’t some fraying around the edges. We have lots of stories of people fighting the whole monogamy “fad.” The funniest parts of the Canterbury Tales have to do with wives and husbands rethinking their relationships.
Today, the vast majority of men appear to respect the humanity of a woman. On average, giving her room to move and grow; giving her respect to explore and create.
Second, part of us is primal. All of us. For men, that means they want women, all the time.
Sad to say, the largest industry on the internet is very likely pornography. The vast majority of that is satisfying the appetite of “normal” men. I try not to judge, but I wish it wasn’t. Get a hobby!
This primal urge usually gets satisfied without anyone getting hurt, directly. There are a few men who can’t handle the virtual world. So they do nasty things and reveal themselves as monsters.
Those monsters without resources do things that we hear with horror: abductions, murders, mutilations.
Those monsters with resources are the ones we are starting to hear about today. And here is where the harem comes in.
Third, being primal bears a cost. For those without resources, this cost is being born by society. We spend money and time and emotional turmoil in order to root out these monsters.
For those with resources, the cost is being delayed, or can be found in their payments to those women they have harmed. The payment could be made immediately, in cash or in the form of a job or promotion. The payment could come later, also cash, or abortion, or child care, or as a court case. In the case of the movie mogul, his costs also include the loss of his career, and a number of legal cases being pressed against him.
Those with resources include the late Hugh Hefner, the man who helped define the modern version of popular pornography in his magazine and on his estate. It appears that he actually maintained his own harem on his estate, sharing those assets with male guests. Was that harem a cost center? Of course! Was it on his financial statements? Very likely.
Finally, consider the harems of history. One Pharaoh sired a century of sons. We should assume there were an equal number of daughters. Scheherazade saved many of her sisters by entertaining the Shah with a thousand stories. As a member of the harem, she knew that he was killing one of them each day, yet still had a ready supply. Lastly, the Emperor of China may have set the record. The Forbidden City concubines were organized into levels and platoons. There’s a good chance they had their own HR department with formal training programs. Seriously.
Conclusion. Whether they are a Saudi Prince, North Korean Dictator, or modern real estate president, the point is that men with resources will expend resources to have many women. How much they are willing to spend is a real question that we should be asking ourselves.
How much women as a class, especially poor women, and society in general, are willing to put up with this, is a whole separate topic.
Thanks for reading.