Imaginary Loneliness

Hello Gentle Reader,

Have you ever felt lonely?

As babies we hug our parents, and we crave that.

If we have siblings they may hug us.  Sometimes they also hit.  Ouch.  Then we go back to hugging our parents.

Some of us grow up with dolls that we hug a lot.  The doll may be nothing more than a stuffed sock (my wife’s grandmother) or even a doll made of grass.

The point is that there is something within us making us want to be with someone else.  Finding someone is difficult.  Many times it doesn’t work out, ending badly.  If it’s bad enough, it makes the headlines.

This need for coupling is built into our biology, our deep biology.  As an intellectually liberated being, it would be nice to rise above that biology.  Let’s face it, rising above anything is tough, and fighting a billion years of biology is tougher yet.

At the very least we can better understand it by acknowledging its deep roots.  And if we accept those roots, then we can have fun with some of the following questions:

  • Why isn’t everyone multi-sexual?
    • After all, it increases your chances of finding someone.
  • Why aren’t there more homosexual relationships?
    • It makes sense, because someone of your gender is far more likely to share many of your same problems.
  • Why do women invest so much more into forming relationships than men?
    • Clothing, makeup, accessories, emotional and mental investment, all of these are many times greater than what men invest.  What’s going on there?

I’m going to try and tackle the last one for now.  Stay tuned!

 

 

 

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I Leggo My Ego

Everyone studies behavior, whether we like it or not.  We’ve been doing it since we were babies, watching parents and siblings very closely.

Today we watch our co-workers, our boss, our employees.  We watch those who feed us, and those we feed.

To truly get a deep understanding of what makes us tick, we have to open our minds to infinite possibilities.  The very way we are raised, and the haphazard methods we normally use to learn about behavior introduce bias into our understanding.

The only way to get rid of bias is to recognize it within ourselves and let it go.  Only then can we get a deep understanding of what makes others do what they do.

Getting rid of bias isn’t easy.  The first step is to get rid of our own sense of self-importance, our ego.  If we accept all others as being of value equal to our own, in a world that contains no judgments, then our ego is no longer a factor.

Without an ego there is no longer right or wrong, good from bad, and moral from immoral.  There is only, behavior.

Without an ego, we can begin to get a better idea as to what may be going on within someone else’s mind, even if that someone else is a wild animal or sports team.

So, let go of your ego.  Don’t throw it away, keep it close because it comes in handy at times.  But when you’re going to get serious about understanding behavior, put it aside; it only gets in the way.

 

Selective Hearing

Can you hear me?

Seriously, this old ad joke is relevant in the study of behavior.

There’s a popular understanding that women are ignored by men in meetings, especially in a corporate setting.

As a semi-retired manager, and having run a firm that had more than the average number of women, it’s true.  In meetings, men DO ignore women.  In those meetings, I took extra care to listen for their contribution, and if necessary, stop others from talking over those women so that their words could be heard.

Why does this happen?  All sorts of new-age reasons have been given, including machismo, sexism, aggression, and even our sex-hungry culture.  But there may be another reason.

I’ve also been in meetings where I am the only male.  Yes, me all alone.  And not necessarily the leader of the meeting.  And this is where it gets weird.  Because I’m not a shy guy.  I’m not afraid to make a point if I have one.  Heck, sometimes I make a point even if I don’t have one.

When I’m the only guy, and I start saying something, it’s like I don’t exist!  Another woman might start talking, and all the women immediately turn towards her.  When I started talking, they don’t quite hear me at first.  I found that I have to make quite a ruckus to get noticed.

What could be going on?

Rather than getting all conspiracy theory on myself, I think the simplest solution is the best.  Basically, as men and women, our brains are tuned to listen to those of our own gender.  Men lean towards the low end of the vocal spectrum, women are on the high end.

So, I conclude, it’s not sexism, it’s not even trying to keep people from climbing into the C-suite.  It’s basic biology.  It’s a million years of survival keeping our brains tuned to the noises that make the most sense.  Women listen to women, and men listen to men.

So the next time your main squeeze isn’t listening to you, don’t fret.  It’s not being done intentionally.  That’s biology!  Solution?

Yell louder.

 

Crazy Driver Tales

Does anyone else out there feel that drivers of today are way worse than of yesteryear?

I can remember when my mother got a ticket for not using her turn signal.  Today it doesn’t surprise me when I see a police car make a turn without using a signal.  Normal civilians only use them about half the time.

So, if you, my Gentle Readers, are interested, I’m going to start compiling a list of crazy driver types that I have cataloged over the years.

Today’s driver is the “Wide Body.”  A wide body driver is someone who drives like their car is verrrrrry wide.

I saw this happen while walking past the library.  There’s an admittedly sharp turn for cars to make there, but this gentleman driving a compact car made the turn as if he were a 48 foot semi.  He took his sweet time, he went very wide of his own lane, and drove in the opposite lane for about 50 feet before finally merging into his own lane.

If I hadn’t seen it I would have thought it was a joke.  If he had been driving a truck it would have been a sweet turn.  Perhaps he is a truck driver.  I’d like to think a professional could maneuver a vehicle in the right way, no matter what.

So keep an eye out.  I’m sure you’ll meet your own wide body soon.

 

 

 

 

Shag the Flag while Kneeling

While eating with another couple the other night, both of them expressed anger at football players who kneel during the national anthem.

Why did they kneel?  To protest violence against certain groups.

Why were my friends angry?  Because it was disrespectful to the flag and the nation.

Disrespect?  I said it sounded more like making a statement, something protected by the First Amendment of the Constitution of the US of A.

No, they said, it’s disrespectful to not stand and salute the flag.

Ah, the flag, I said.  I asked them if they knew that there were official government protocols for displaying and treating the flag?  (None of which are binding, by the way.)

They said they did.

I told them my neighbors like displaying their flags all day and night, through any kind of weather, any season.  The guidelines say you should display it only from sunrise to sunset, among other things.  Keep it out longer and you’ve got a decoration, not a flag.

Treating it like a decoration is just as disrespectful as kneeling during the anthem.  At least kneeling in order to make a statement serves a purpose.  What purpose does a house decoration serve?

They didn’t like that.  He said “I keep my flag out all the time.”

I didn’t comment.  But it’s a free country.  That’s what makes us great.  Flags can be decoration in all sorts of ways.  You can get your flag in terms of swimwear, or for your ultra patriotic house.

But unless you treat it will full respect, and truly understand what it means, you’re also just making it a decoration, and your statement is rather superficial.  Kneeling during the anthem is showing both respect, and objecting to what your government may be doing.  Yet another right guaranteed to all of us under the constitution.

So, before you get all angry over football players who have a political conscience, think about your own actions first.  You know what they say about throwing stones in glass houses.

 

We are to Gaia, as …

Some time ago, this neat guy proposed that the Earth can be considered a living thing.  He called that “thing” Gaia.

It’s the kind of concept that some people feel is right and natural.  In fact, the concept is part of our most primitive vocabulary, as in Mother Nature.

As he was trying to convince scientists, he made his argument technical.  Most of them didn’t believe him, even though he used big words and had all sorts of evidence.

For fun, let’s embrace the concept.  First, we’ll consider all of humanity a single life form, a species.  Let’s also consider that the set of ALL species on our planet also constitutes a single life form.

Here’s the fun part.  For all of us nerds who dwell on things like AI and computers taking over humanity one way or another, consider this twist.

Humans create an AI to be our servant.  At some point that AI becomes self-aware and decides that it’s better than all the humans that created it.  At that point it harnesses all sorts of technology to systematically wipe out those humans, turning them into its servants.  The AI has become the master.

Ready?

Think about Gaia as being the whole Earth representation of humanity.  It’s been around, in full flower, for a very very long time.

Now, think about humanity as the most recent creation of Gaia.  A new species that is supposed to help keep Gaia humming along for even longer.

Except something goes horribly wrong.  Gaia’s servant becomes self-aware, and decides that Gaia should be the servant, and it should become the master.  It begins waging a war upon Gaia.

Get it?  In this sense,

… WE ARE SKYNET.

 

 

(We are to Gaia, as Skynet is to us.)

Singing for Sex

Driving to the gym, jamming to the tunes, and all the bands were men, all the lead singers were men, nothing but men.

And then I thought about the birds.  Especially the good singing birds.  Just like the music I was listening to, most of them are male as well.

What’s the deal?  Are you a young woman who feels a slight by the oversight?

Perhaps you shouldn’t.  It seems that music has everything to do with getting some; some sex, that is.  Yes, music can make us feel good in many other ways, but the rock bottom essential nature of music is to rock someone’s bottom.

Bad?  Good?  Neither.  Simply is.

But this knowledge means we can better understand cultures that adore certain types of music.  It means we can better explain why there are cultures that outright ban music, especially from young women.  And it means there is a darn good reason the music of your parents should not be the same kind of music you enjoy during your randy youth.

Me?  I’m sticking to Bach.

 

No Butts, what?

Walking through a pristine park today and saw a butt: cigarette butt.

If a person thinks of their cancer stick as natural, what else might they be thinking?

  1. Nature is here for their personal pleasure, and trash container.
  2. That they are superior to me.
  3. They can beat me in a fight.
  4. They can grab my genitals, and I’ll like it.
  5. Even if I complain about 3 or 4, no one could prosecute them.

I saw the cigarette butt, thought of all this, and put it in the trash.  After all, I don’t want to start any fights.

Or do I?

 

Flipping Odometers

As a child, I enjoyed watching the car’s odometer count the miles.   I awaited the moment when all the nines would line up and then, holding my breath, watched them roll into all zeroes.  Ah, the simple joys of youth.

I also imagined the future.  There would be a colony on the moon, and ray guns, and smart robots.  Again, simple joys.

I did not imagine I would grow up in a world where people were afraid of the odometer.  In 1999, the odometer rolled over to 2000.  This was termed the Y2K problem.  People were afraid there would be anarchy, electricity would fail, and airplanes would fall from the sky.

Of course, none of these things happened.  Instead, our government spent billions working to solve the Y2K problem.  It was an imaginary problem, yet cost money.

You are now growing up in this world.  Instead of looking forward to visiting your friend on the moon, or taking a vacation on a space station, you are worried about imaginary problems.

Where did we go wrong?

We stopped working towards a better world and began paying more attention to entertainment in all its form.  Reality is no longer more interesting than entertainment.

What are some imaginary problems?

Our imaginary problems are those our politicians like to hold up in order to inflame our emotions and influence our votes: abortion, terrorism, military threats are a few.

Want more?  Just ask and I’ll go into details.  Thanks for reading.

 

 

9/11 Nudity

Today is a day of respect and reflection.

As we reflect, let us ask ourselves WHY?

Why do perfectly healthy young men, all Saudi, dedicate their lives to destroying so many other innocents?

Why do their religious leaders condone such actions?

Why does the Saudi government condone, even support such actions; as recently alleged in recent court filings? and possibly in still-redacted government reports?

Why do our leaders and academics not discuss the underlying reasons all these people would want such violence?

Here are some possible reasons for the violence.

1) These Saudis and other religious extremists are crazy and like to do such things.

2) Perhaps these extremists are intent on starting a 100 year religious war, like the Crusades of old?

3) Or perhaps these extremists are registering their inability to fight Western evils in all its forms?

My bet is on number 3, because the other two don’t make sense.  It’s also the one that extremists use for recruiting.

What are these evils?  One is unconditional support for Israel and other religious countries, no matter how their Islamic populations are treated.  Another is our export of vice in the form of gambling, entertainment, movies, TV, songs, etc.  And finally, the icing on the cake, is that there are no regrets on the part of Western leaders.  Vice is big business!

On this day, this day on which we should all pause and respect those who died because of extremists, and those who have gone and fought the extremist enemy, we instead have fresh evidence as to how we are exporting our own morals onto those who don’t want them.

A beautiful young woman decided she would gain fame be desecrating ancient monuments in Egypt.  They warned her, they tried to stop her.  She and her photographer managed to survive, and escape with the pictures they wanted.

Was the experience enough to stop them from publishing those pictures?  Oh no oh no.

But what’s worse is the several news organizations decided they would help her by publishing her story to the internet.  And so it grows.  It’s news, of a sort.

But what is worse is that we are insulting today’s Egyptians.  We are insulting their very identity.  And we are tempting them to strike back in any way they can.

Here are a few links to her story, and a few others highlighting the US effort to “fight evil” as well as how “evil” also exists within our borders.

We will never fully appreciate the sacrifice made by those in the twin towers until we are ourselves brave enough to ask WHY.  Until we have enough backbone to fight against hate and disrespect WHERE EVER it appears.

The young woman should be publicly chastised, and the pictures deleted.  She should be returned to Egypt to suffer their laws.  The gentleman trying to murder people in his car should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.  Those organizing “far-right” rallies should be suppressed by every leader who has sworn to uphold the costitution, sung the National Anthem (of the US), or recited the Pledge of Allegiance.

Until these things happen, nothing will happen.  Until the next set of extremists make their stand.

Honor those who perished, honor those who truly serve, and honor those yet to come by answering WHY.  Then do something about it.

Thank you.

 

 

http://www.francesoir.fr/culture-medias/voyage-sexy-et-nudite-les-deux-passions-de-marisa-papen-photos-instagram-blog-nue-tour-du-monde-seins-topless-blog

http://gulfnews.com/news/mena/egypt/belgian-model-s-nude-photos-at-pyramid-draws-egypt-s-ire-1.2086855

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4872328/Nude-model-reveals-forced-spend-night-jail.html

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/model-marisa-papen-and-australian-photographer-jesse-walker-arrested-in-egypt-over-naked-photos/news-story/5797489cd1517920cc4f67f3a8c65fd6

https://thinkprogress.org/man-arrested-at-far-right-rally-for-allegedly-attempting-to-run-over-counter-protesters-3fc95906c458/

 

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