Hello Curious Friend. Welcome to my book about Hate. The number tells you where you are in the sequence. I look forward to your comments.
Intention and Expression of Hate (Continued)
It’s going to take time and patience, but only by employing a consistent approach to understanding expressions in general, and then comparing those expressions to long-term results, will we be able to learn what we need to know about hate in the long run. One of the most important things we need to understand about hate is that its expression takes many forms, anything from genocide to something subtle like shunning someone.
Having given this considerable thought, I now classify all expressions of hate, no matter how big or small, into two grand categories.
The first is category is the “Direct Approach.” This includes self-reported hate, the kind that’s revealed when we ask the hater if he hates, and he admits so freely.
I call the second category the “Sneaky Approach.” This is hate revealed through the use of roundabout methods that, over time, induce the hater to reveal his hate. These questions peel back layers that the source has constructed to hide his hate.
To illustrate these two categories in more detail, let’s revisit the actors from our short hate play: Tango, Sierra and Oscar. Tango plays the part of being the target of hate. Sierra is the source of hate. And we will play the role of Oscar, the observer of what happens between Tango and Sierra.
As a good observer, we will be without bias or motive. In addition, we sit upon the highest pedestal, compared to Tango and Sierra. Finally, Oscar’s motivation is to discover whether or not Sierra hates Tango.
As Oscar, can we use the Direct Approach and simply ask Sierra point blank whether she hates Tango? Of course we can. There’s many reasons why this wouldn’t work. But there’s also a chance that it would.
If it didn’t work, we could use the Sneaky Approach. Instead of asking Sierra “Do you hate Tango?” we would ask questions that seem unrelated to her hate. But these clever questions would be designed to reveal her hate for Tango, if it exists.
Regardless of whether we ask Sierra directly about whether she hates Tango, or take the sneaky approach and asking more roundabout questions about this hate, the key takeaway is that these two approaches are the only methods to get self-reported hate expressions directly from the source.
The bottom line is that Sierra either knows what we’re asking about or doesn’t.
This brings us to another class of hate expression that is highly dependent upon the observer’s perspective. It also can reveal the presence of hate within the source. That class comes from passive observation. We can simply watch Sierra “in the wild,” so to speak.
There are two classes of observing hate passively, illustrated below. In the first, we are invisible. In the second, Sierra knows we’re watching. In both of these cases, we observe Sierra and Tango as they interact. Perhaps we see her interacting with her peers as well.
To be continued …