There is great uncertainty in our world. You feel it in your bones. Lots of people on the planet. Too much information about your friends, and way too much about people labeled friend. News media that keep screaming about one thing or another. Poison in our air, water, food, even in our medicine. What do we do?
We are afraid. When we are afraid as children, we run to the safety of strong arms, our mother and father. When things are really bad, we want the strength of a man, an alpha man.
Part of us is always looking for him. The heroes of comic books and the big screen are always men that are strong and powerful. Young women know this all too well, they flock to the few young men that exude power and strength.
Even other men know this. Strong men tend to have lots of man friends, but man friends who are secondary, willing to live within the alpha shadow.
Why do we flock to the alpha male? Probably from millions of years of evolution. Our ape and chimp cousins do the same thing. The alpha keeps the group together. The alpha battles for supremacy, and then he has the most children.
No problems with politics. Once a younger buck comes along who can knock the alpha down, then there’s a new alpha in town. He gets the tribe, he gets the chicks. No one cares where the old alpha goes, he’s toast.
Under the alpha male system, you have to live with certain things. I wrote about that earlier, so we won’t worry about it here.
The reason we don’t use an alpha male system today in most of the world is because of one of the most powerful behavioral forces of all time, love. I wrote about that as well, so it doesn’t need to go here.
Today we see the rise of many alpha males as leaders: Trump, Putin, and Erdogan. One of the things that surprised me about the rise of Trump was how many women preferred him over a woman. Talking to them reminded me of the alpha male complex.
All these women respect strong men, in fact they prefer them. A strong man gives them a sense of security in the future. It doesn’t matter if that strong man doesn’t care about them, lies or cheats or steals. All that matters is that he is strong.
No doubt you also know women like this. Even though they leave a bad relationship involving a strong man, they end up back in another alpha male’s arms.
We’re seeing the same thing today. Only these alpha males really are at the top of the pyramid. And we can partially blame our genes.
Let’s hope that this time around, the alpha games don’t end as badly as history suggests they will.